Friendly Reminder #1 You deserve to be happy.
Yes... You do. In my humble opinion, I whole-heartedly believe you deserve to be happy... I know that it's technically not up to me to decide, but just know that you do, no matter what you've done, no matter how many people are better than you or more deserving than you... you still, also, deserve to be happy, just because you're YOU
Friendly Reminder #2 Being kind to yourself is actually a good thing.
In our achievement-focused, hustle culture it's easy to think that being kind to yourself is a sign of weakness or complacency, but it's actually been proven to be essential for your health and happiness and even success. Self-compassion allows you to reflect on how far you've come and allows you to see yourself as human, rather than an ineffective cog in a machine.
Friendly Reminder #3 You've already accomplished MANY great things.
Following on from #2, this is a reminder that even though you haven't achieved all the great things you WILL in your lifetime, you have already accomplished many amazing things to get you to where you are right in this very moment. It's OK to give yourself a pat on the back every now and then and appreciate how far you've already come.
Friendly Reminder #4 You are perfect, just the way you are.
I know... there's no such thing as perfect... True! BUT what if it were true that you are exactly as you are meant to be in this very moment? What if you were meant to be this age, shape, height, weight, relationship status, experience, and everything else right now? What if it were just our stories about what and where we 'should' be that were holding us back?
Friendly Reminder #5 You are already enough.
This may not make sense to you yet... I know I couldn't comprehend it for a few years after I learnt the concept, but you are already enough.
You don't need to achieve to be enough. You are enough whether you achieve greatness or achieve nothing.
You don't need to be in a relationship to be enough. You are enough whether you're in a relationship or not, whether you've been married 5 times or never been kissed. You are enough.
You don't need to be 'normal' to be enough. You are enough whether you are a nerd, the black sheep, smart or dumb, sporty or lazy, addicted, sick, depressed, anxious, gay or straight, different or the same. No matter what mold you fit into, or don't... you are enough.
You don't need your parent's love and approval to be enough. You are enough no matter who brought you into this world or who did or didn't raise you, no matter how different you turned out to what they'd hoped or expected. You are enough.
You don't need money to be enough. You are enough whether you are rich or poor, have a high profile job or on the dole, a saver or spender. Money doesn't make you enough, because you already are.
You are already enough, just because you are.
I hope, if it doesn't already, that one day this all makes sense and you believe it. I'd love to know about it when you do.
